Why I am not a feminist

Why I am not a feminist

On not being a feminist

  • I do not need to identify myself as a feminist to believe in equal rights and opportunities. I live in a world where I am free to make this choice, it is my right to do so, even if you don’t agree with it.
  • I do not believe that men and women are equal. I believe we should have equal rights and opportunities, but I celebrate our differences, and I can accept that these difference may lead to a divide in political, economical, cultural and social representations. This does not necessarily mean that equal rights and opportunities were not given.
  • I believe in equal rights and opportunities for everyone, including people of different race, religion & disability. I do not wish to identify with a group who focus on gender alone.
  • Just because I agree with the core values of feminism, I do not have to be a feminist. I think Christianity promotes some excellent moral values, (thou shalt not kill, though shalt not steal) but I am not a Christian.
  • I appreciate that feminism has given me the right to vote, and many other things, including the right to be who I want to be, and that person is not a feminist.
  • I can honestly say that if it was the year 1900, I would likely be a proud, outspoken and active feminist. But is it 2015, and I do not identify with modern feminists in the same way I can identify with the first-wave movement.
  • I do not believe that all issues of gender inequality are due to gender alone. We are complex people in a complex society, and our inequality issues can be influenced by many things other than gender.

On not needing feminism

I came across a really interesting movement called Women Against Feminism, in which women give their reasons for not needing the feminist movement. Some of the reasons I see cropping up a few times;

  • I am not a victim
  • I am not oppressed
  • I do not need a movement to speak for me, I have my own voice and opinions
  • It ignores inequality for men
  • I want to be a stay at home mum

Firstly, I think it’s ok to make the assumption that these women are stating why they do not need feminism ‘now’. I do not think that they are claiming that there has never been an issue, nor should this diminish the achievements of feminists in the past, or the need for feminism by some other women. I’m sure that a feminist will argue that a lot of these statements are not strictly true, but its funny how the same statements keep cropping up, and this doubt must have come from somewhere. It is my opinion, that in more recent times, feminism has been tainted. Something must be causing these women to feel like feminism is trying to make them feel like a victim, claim oppression, or be ashamed of wanting to be a stay at home mum instead of lawyer or doctor. These feelings don’t come from no where, and whether or not feminism represents these ideas or not, it does not make the opinions of these women any less valid. Maybe in their cases they don’t need feminism anymore because for them, the feminist movement has done its job, but I think it’s a damn shame that such an amazing movement has become so misunderstood and warped by today’s society.

On feminists

I have had many bad experiences with feminists, and I believe that a lot of misconceptions and bad opinions about the movement, are down to certain few feminists, or feminist groups.

  • Radical Feminists – taking the movement to the extreme, losing sight of the core values, and probably responsible for a lot of women who believe all feminists hate men
  • Self Righteous Feminists – those who think that anyone who isn’t a feminist is inferior, unintelligent and wrong. Having another point of view does not mean you do not believe in equal rights, this attitude only serves to increase dislike for the feminist movement
  • Hypocritical Feminists – I am constantly preached to that feminists fight for the rights of women. I am a woman, yet my right to an opinion does not seem to be deemed acceptable.
  • Judgmental Feminists – those that deem alternative viewpoints as coming from someone with lesser moral values

On Comments

  • I do not expect people to agree with me, I do expect people to respect my right to an opinion
  • The above is a short summary and does not reflect my full views. I am aware that there is much more to feminism, but I have chosen to keep this blog brief
  • I welcome healthy discussion and debate, I will ignore rude and argumentative challenges to my beliefs
  • I mean exactly what I have said, I will ignore comments which state; “so what you’re saying is…….” No, this is what you think i’m saying, what am I actually saying is what I printed
  • I welcome you to point out if you think I have my facts wrong, this is entirely possible, I am an far from perfect person
  • You are entitled to your opinion, it does not give you the right to belittle mine or anyone elses

Other articles of interest

How (Not) To React to Anti-Feminist Women

The Truth About Feminism

Radical feminism is a danger to women

Keep Your Identity Small

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27 thoughts on “Why I am not a feminist”

  • You’re a brave girl for admitting to this. Keep it up! Use this free society to become whatever you want and help in curbing people from spreading toxic ideology and propaganda. Good day!

  • Great for you always believe that there is not.a.perfect ideology.. Yet people think that feminism is flawless.. Cheers

  • This entry clarified a lot of things for me. Thank you. If you don’t mind, I would like to leave a opinions of my own on this issue. First off, I think it would be of the essence to admit that I consider myself a part of the feminist movement. I got my firsthand lessons in regard to gender from a course I took in my collegiate years. Before, I did not deem it plausible that men are women do not share the same rights and opportunities for as far as I see, my father and mother exercise the same rights, i.e. voting, freedom of speech, either in our household or in their respective offices. Aside from that, there does not seem to be much of a problem if most of our women stay at home and look after their children because that is the accepted norm that we have been accustomed to and consequently what we have deemed as the equal and more or less complementary role of women in the household as opposed to men. Back then, I thought that the roles that men and women partake is not really much big of a deal. “That’s just how it is,” I thought, “and that’s how it should be.”

    Taking the gender course is, without exaggeration whatsoever, was the game-changer for me. Suffice to say, it has given me a new and wholesome perspective on culture and life. Contrary to my experience, most people got their orientation of the feminist perspective from the Internet. By this, I don’t mean that the Internet is a bad thing, no, it is far from that. What I mean is that the Internet culture is characterized by minimizing or compressing facts and information. For instance, we are accustomed to memes, fast-facts, quick trivia and 3-minute philosophies that we think we have gathered the sufficient information based on these things alone, but truth is, we have not. There are important details that we tend to miss out in our subscription to shortened or summarized analyses that lead to a different thinking contrary to what a movement espouses.

    I agree with you that feminism nowadays has values that are illogical and just plain unreasonable. Still I consider myself a feminist despite that modern-day misconceptions. Just because a movement was besmeared with misunderstandings from the public does not mean that I am to withdraw from its tenets. I remain to call myself a feminist despite the misled connotations of me being a man-hating and biased individual because of fear that if I, and other traditional feminists, concede now, there would be none left to defend the true essence of what it means to a feminist and be a part of the feminist movement that aims not to overthrow men and puts women on top, but to encourage our fellow women to be free from the the cultural grip and live side by side with men without seeing one or the other as inferior.

    Although the movement is going through a controversial phase, it will always be a privilege on my part if I can help in the process of clarifying misconceptions. The feminist movement does not only speak for the democratic parts of the globe who has already achieved an equal view of men and women and who renders these genders the same opportunities, but rather, the feminist movement remains to be in existence because there are still women out there, most especially in third world rural areas, who are treated as inferiors in multiple, if not all, aspects of their lives. So long as this minority exist, feminism will and remain to hold its ground. Sadly, not everyone consider this little detail. Still, there are chances where we could clarify what misguides people into thinking otherwise, and I would be honored to be of assistance to establishing the movement back to its purest form, wouldn’t you?

    • Well, why not do something under a different name? The word “feminist” is as gender neutral as “white supremacist” is race neutral.

      • Why hold so fiercely to a word. Take a new one. “Feminism” is a sexist movement. It says already in the name that it’s only for the rights of a group of people. There are movements that are for equality.

  • Forgive me I don’t mean to sound rude but there are plenty of things that a feminist stands for its not to hate men and it’s not to stand for themselves and feel sorry for themselves but make a difference which is more than I can say for creating a page which lessens what other people stand and believe in I’m not a feminist but I respect strong and independent women who want to make women aware of their rights

  • This post is well articulated. For a time I called myself a feminist, but only to satisfy people with the knowledge that I did in fact believe in equal rights. I am much more than that though… even if you wrap up all my opinions and put a label on it… I am more than that. I am me- a whole person- beyond the words of my mouth. I am Christian, I am egalitarian, I am a lot of things. I am me.

  • I’m not a feminist, feminism preys on women when they are at their most vulnerable the overbearing political correctness is just too much to handle that I just can’t be my authentic self. Feminism is toxic for young women and btw I am seeing so many queens why should we act like men when we can be a Queen!

  • The bible says that oppression and sorrow has filled the world feminism only talks about women being oppressed this is direct man hate, aren’t men not oppressed don’t men have sorrow?

  • I was gonna write a blog article on my views; but seriously, this one is brilliantly worded and offers insightful debate. I’m not a feminist either – and I think you put the words perfectly and without directly offending anyone. I’m guessing you hold a degree of some sort – you write like it.

  • Thank you for this article. I can’t tell you how much criticism I get in a world full of radical feminists because I am happy with my life and won’t play the victim.

  • So Well said.

    To anyone who thinks they’re a feminist because they believe in equal rights, remember this about feminism:

    “It ignores inequality for men”

    A feminist believes in equal rights for women and women only.

    If you are a feminist you do NOT believe in equal rights for men, and are probably blind to men’s issues.

    I suggest watching The Red Pill movie, produced by feminist* Cassie Jaye.

    * At the time of filming.

    • Mark, crikey, I don’t know what kind of feminists you hang around with, but true feminism is first and foremost about equality for all people, regardless of gender. If I see a man being treated unequally to me I will stand up for him and his rights. But I would like to think that in reverse I would be treated the same way.?

      Any person who treats a person unfairly, differently, or with contempt, because of their gender is an utter twonk and needs to be pulled up on it..

      • Feminism is not and never has been about equality. It is based on the seizing of power. It relies on the moral self justification of victim hood and the cover of equality. In reality feminism is about seizing power for women. That’s not necessarily a bad thing. However it is not the same as equality. Feminists want men to unilaterally give up all power and privileges, precived or real, that place them over women. However they refuse to disarm their own power and privileges. Ask any feminist about what we should do about X male issue. You will get one of three answers 1. It’s not real, 2. It’s not important 3. By giving women powers it will magically go away. What about any of the seems to be about equality? It’s because baked into the cake of feminism is that female is good and male (masculine) is bad. So things affecting the masculine are there for justified, overblown, or are some how related to the evils of the masculine. Rather then unique issues. It creates a dichotomy that doesn’t actually exist because when you seize power you need to have and enemy.

  • I believe the stumbling block is one of terminology. The term “feminism” achieved common currency long before terms describing other pro-egalitarian philosophies achieved the same.

    Had the concept of feminism emerged later, it might well have been normatively termed “anti-sexism”. Imagine how we might regard anti-racism today if we conventionally referred to it as “blackism”? Or how we might regard anti-homophobia if we conventionally referred to it as “gayism”?

    There is nothing at all wrong with wanting and striving for women to have the same opportunities as men. There is a plausible argument that “feminism” is an antiquated term. But the term still means what it has always meant: anti-sexism.

  • I found this article really interesting, especially the part where you said that you don’t think men and women are equal but should have equal opportunities. I agree that men and women are not the same and I think that trying to treat women exactly the same as men is not the way forwards. I think that equal respect and opportunities are the important things. I completely respect the fact that you do not identify as a feminist, however I would say that any one who wants all genders to be equal is a feminist. In my opinion, the word feminist has become misleading as it suggests that the movement is closed to other genders, although this is not the case. I call myself a feminist because I believe in equal rights for all genders. I want men to be able to cry without being told to man up, or to be stay at home dads, and I want women to feel heard, know they can do any job they want to, and not be objectified. I do agree that feminism can lead to issues such as women being represented as victims when they are not, but I still believe that the core values of feminism are needed in this world. We have not yet reached equality and all genders need to work together to achieve that.

    • Well said, we need more voices like yours, because at the moment I see men around me weaponizing their arguments in response and it is not pretty.

    • You have made several mistakes typical of feminists – one is to tell someone who has told you they are not a feminist that they are a feminist because they believe in equality – no they are not a feminist no matter how much you insist upon it. Second, you bring up the fact feminism is supposedly fixing male issues, however you list the typical feminist approved male issues which most men don’t actually care about, such as being able to cry more or being a stay at home dad. There are real male issues such as the fact women initiate divorce and familial separation at a far greater rate than men, meaning that men expect there’s a good chance that against their wishes they will lose access to their children and become a half time father at best (and possibly the child will get another father figure) and also that the house or pension or situation they worked toward with and for a woman will all come to nothing and that the law won’t protect them if it does. However feminism created the laws which caused both these (actual) problems for men and fully supports them continuing.

      The reality is if men and women are not the same as you say, then they will both want different things out of life and won’t even be able to agree on what “equality” should look like, so what does gender equality really even mean when you take this into account.

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