Why I am not a feminist
On not being a feminist
- I do not need to identify myself as a feminist to believe in equal rights and opportunities. I live in a world where I am free to make this choice, it is my right to do so, even if you don’t agree with it.
- I do not believe that men and women are equal. I believe we should have equal rights and opportunities, but I celebrate our differences, and I can accept that these difference may lead to a divide in political, economical, cultural and social representations. This does not necessarily mean that equal rights and opportunities were not given.
- I believe in equal rights and opportunities for everyone, including people of different race, religion & disability. I do not wish to identify with a group who focus on gender alone.
- Just because I agree with the core values of feminism, I do not have to be a feminist. I think Christianity promotes some excellent moral values, (thou shalt not kill, though shalt not steal) but I am not a Christian.
- I appreciate that feminism has given me the right to vote, and many other things, including the right to be who I want to be, and that person is not a feminist.
- I can honestly say that if it was the year 1900, I would likely be a proud, outspoken and active feminist. But is it 2015, and I do not identify with modern feminists in the same way I can identify with the first-wave movement.
- I do not believe that all issues of gender inequality are due to gender alone. We are complex people in a complex society, and our inequality issues can be influenced by many things other than gender.
On not needing feminism
I came across a really interesting movement called Women Against Feminism, in which women give their reasons for not needing the feminist movement. Some of the reasons I see cropping up a few times;
- I am not a victim
- I am not oppressed
- I do not need a movement to speak for me, I have my own voice and opinions
- It ignores inequality for men
- I want to be a stay at home mum
Firstly, I think it’s ok to make the assumption that these women are stating why they do not need feminism ‘now’. I do not think that they are claiming that there has never been an issue, nor should this diminish the achievements of feminists in the past, or the need for feminism by some other women. I’m sure that a feminist will argue that a lot of these statements are not strictly true, but its funny how the same statements keep cropping up, and this doubt must have come from somewhere. It is my opinion, that in more recent times, feminism has been tainted. Something must be causing these women to feel like feminism is trying to make them feel like a victim, claim oppression, or be ashamed of wanting to be a stay at home mum instead of lawyer or doctor. These feelings don’t come from no where, and whether or not feminism represents these ideas or not, it does not make the opinions of these women any less valid. Maybe in their cases they don’t need feminism anymore because for them, the feminist movement has done its job, but I think it’s a damn shame that such an amazing movement has become so misunderstood and warped by today’s society.
I have had many bad experiences with feminists, and I believe that a lot of misconceptions and bad opinions about the movement, are down to certain few feminists, or feminist groups.
- Radical Feminists – taking the movement to the extreme, losing sight of the core values, and probably responsible for a lot of women who believe all feminists hate men
- Self Righteous Feminists – those who think that anyone who isn’t a feminist is inferior, unintelligent and wrong. Having another point of view does not mean you do not believe in equal rights, this attitude only serves to increase dislike for the feminist movement
- Hypocritical Feminists – I am constantly preached to that feminists fight for the rights of women. I am a woman, yet my right to an opinion does not seem to be deemed acceptable.
- Judgmental Feminists – those that deem alternative viewpoints as coming from someone with lesser moral values
- I do not expect people to agree with me, I do expect people to respect my right to an opinion
- The above is a short summary and does not reflect my full views. I am aware that there is much more to feminism, but I have chosen to keep this blog brief
- I welcome healthy discussion and debate, I will ignore rude and argumentative challenges to my beliefs
- I mean exactly what I have said, I will ignore comments which state; “so what you’re saying is…….” No, this is what you think i’m saying, what am I actually saying is what I printed
- I welcome you to point out if you think I have my facts wrong, this is entirely possible, I am an far from perfect person
- You are entitled to your opinion, it does not give you the right to belittle mine or anyone elses
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