50 Shades of Stockholm Syndrome
I remember when the book 50 Shades of Grey became a phenomenon, and the best way I saw it described was S&M for the M&S crowd. And now it has become a sensation again, only this time in film format.
I haven’t read the book, I tried to see what all the fuss was about, but I found it a pretty poor read, got bored quickly, skimmed to the sex scenes and thought it was a pile of drivel.
Last weekend I thought I would give the film a go and see if it was any better, and although I made it through to the end, it was not because I was enjoying it. It was more because I wasn’t sure I could believe what I was seeing, nor could I believe that people are actually enjoying this shit.
Firstly the acting leaves a lot to be desired. Dakota Johnson, yes dear, biting your lip can be sexual, would you like to do it at least once every 10 minutes in the film? Yes, it would appear that you would.
Jamie Dornan, you’re not auditioning for a diet coke advert, and Etta James is not included on the soundtrack. Yes you have damn good abs, but every time you take your top off, you just look like a posing tosser.
Part of what makes a relationship special between a dominant and a submissive is trust and willing participation. Anastasia Steel is not a willing participant, she is hesitant, naive, unsure and by the end of the film she is most definitely not willing. The film does not in any way portray a relationship between a dominant and a submissive, it portrays an abusive relationship, glamourised for the big screen.
Christian Grey is not a dominant, he is an abusive man who wants to control someone, regardless of whether or not they have given him consent. After she tells him to leave her alone, he breaks into her house, she visits family, he turns up without invite. I don’t know if the book manages to flesh out his character more successfully, but all the film portrays is a psychopathic, controlling stalker who wants to abuse another person because ‘he needs to’.
In this story we have a young girl, very sexually inexperienced, who falls in love (within about 2 weeks from the looks of things may I add). She finds out that the man she loves is a sadist, and having no prior knowledge or experience of the BDSM world, she decides to venture there, for him.
Anastasia Steel is the films heroine, as an audience we are supposed to like her, feel for her, and care about what happens to her, yet in this task the producers have failed miserably. In a world where we are surrounded more and more with strong female role models, here we have managed to create an icon out of a vulnerable, pathetic woman who loves a man who stalks, manipulates and abuses her. The whole thing is completely ridiculous!
Just because you love someone, does not give them the right to abuse you and label it as BDSM.
In one fail swoop 50 Shades of Grey has managed to glorify abusive relationships for bored women who couldn’t handle the real world of BDSM. Anastasia Steel may not be a captive in the strictest sense of the world, but Christian Grey holds so much power and control over her, he is her captor.
50 Shades of Grey is not a story about BDSM, it’s about a pathetic woman who falls in love with her abuser. Anastasia Steel is suffering from Stockholm Syndrome, not experiencing a sexual awakening.Thanks for reading!
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